Comparision is the Thief of Joy & Wellness

February 23, 2015



Every so often something is said, happens or gets posted that I just can't stop thinking about it. When I simply cannot let go of it is when I know I need to address it. So today, I'm pulling out my not so little Mat & Kitchen​ soap box for a little heart to heart with you. 


I am beyond proud and grateful for everyone who ever puts themselves 'out there' to make positive changes in their life via fitness and food. I am grateful for each soul that takes the leap #onthemat to become a Mat &Kitchen member. It's a very personal journey and tends to be very emotional, especially the way I coach and approach it. We dig through not only physical blocks but emotional ones as well because I believe that that's where it all begins and ends. We can all burn a calorie but can we burn off our dysfunctional thinking and emotional baggage?


Time inevitably flies and it's important to take moments to reflect on your fitness journey. It's important to know where you've come from, where you've been, where you are and where you want to go. I am reflect daily for myself and for Mat & Kitchen as a community and business. I'm grateful the M&K community grows, educates via compassionate wellness and produces results via clear, functional tactics. I'm aware and blessed that this convergence cultivates happier people in the world that can therefore go make positive impact in their own areas of passion and expertise. I also realize that there is much room to grow and evolve. I am aware that to compare what I do to what anyone else does only diminishes my and my subscribers journey. I would not be where I am as a person or a business had I not traversed the road that was laid out for me in all it's peaks and valleys. I would not be the teacher I am today without the crazy lessons I had to learn. Hardship and challenge are what create wisdom and capacity to teach others. I'm grateful for my journey because it's brought me to where I am today. I'm grateful that my life in all it's seeming chaos allows me to be a better teacher to you. 


You must constantly check in with yourself to see how you feel. Are you content? Happy? Joyful more often than mot? Or are you sad, frustrated, angry or tired? Your body and how you feel are a reflection of what's going on in your life. Your body is a reflection of your journey. It's not an end point. It's not a destination, it's a gauge. By taking care of your body you create a better vehicle for your life's experiences. If the vehicle is safe and humming along you can simply be of better use in the world. You're more capable of giving your talents to the world. You're more capable to be present and available to those you love if you're aware and connected to yourself physically. 


I genuinely believe all that. I believe that if your body is the best it can be, your experience of life is actually better. You are more calm and capable of handling the curve balls that come, you will be more open to experiencing joy and possibility and opportunities and you can be more compassionate to others; learning when to leave them alone and simply focus on yourself or when to reach out to support and uplift.


Self care is required for fitness and wellness. It's not self indulgent and I do believe one of the most powerful things we can do is leave others alone and simply address ourselves. Because if we can't take care of ourselves we have zero right or capacity to care for anyone else.


In this process you simply cannot compare yourself to others. Your neighbor, friend, partner, family or even, me, your teacher. Comparison is truly the thief of joy and you'll miss out on the joy of the journey if you're constantly worrying about what you look like, how you move or progress in comparison to anyone else. Your experience and journey is your own. Mine is mine. They can each influence, motivate and support each other but to compare is to miss the point of getting on the mat. 


M&K's community is strong, genuine and supportive. Reach out to one another,  make friends and be positive via the fan page, sessions and private Facebook Groups.  Vent, be honest when things don't go well and let us help get you back up and on the M&K wagon. 


Life is not a linear path. There will be bumps and bruises along the way.


I want to be super clear that when you get ‪#‎onthemat‬ with M&K we drop the guilt, confusion, deprivation and idea that failure is inevitable. Progress is inevitable if you are willing to be consistent, continue to try and to perhaps drop what you thought were the 'only' ways to generate fitness & wellness results. 


We adopt the mantra that success is a guaranteed IF we are willing to do the work AND if we stop comparing ourselves to others.


We are individuals. We are seperate bodies and no two are exactly alike, nor should they be. This is the miracle of our physical body.


Our bodies do not come with a manual but I can coach you to write your own handbook if we are willing to explore. You can crack your own food and workout code #onthemat & #inthekitchen. It takes time, effort and awareness to learn. There are no silver bullets and no quick fixes, there are however, ways to be fit and healthy. 


My passion is to teach intelligent fitness and holistic wellness in our modern, busy lives through M&K.


No one has it harder or easier than anyone else. Trauma and stress are relative. Journeys are not for the judgment of others. M&K is a safe, realistic space to vent, learn, progress, educate and balance the difficulties of life and it's exponential joys.


If I were to laundry list out all my 'difficulties' in life many or you might be blown away that I'm still standing. I've been to therapy, doctors, practitioners, read innumerable books and listened to countless speakers and healers. I've done my work over the years and continue to do so when the need arises. I've spent an incredible amount of time sick, angry or frustrated but I've learned to not compare what 'I have been through' to anyone else. It's simply mine. If I hadn't have had all those experiences, I would never be who I am today M&K would not exist and I would 't have you all. I love who I am and am grateful for all my lessons. I want the same for each of you. 


Comparing  yourself, your life experiences, your place in your fitness and wellness journey to anyone else only breaks down your progress and process. 


We are all here to learn, all here to practice and we all support each other. And I'm a firm believer in what Thumper has to say 'if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all'. Because the reality is, what you say says far more about where you are on your journey than the person you're talking about.


Every single one of your experiences are worthwhile. Everyone's life is challenging and yes, some parts and times are far more challenging than others but all we can really do is try our best, sift through our junk and take the most positive stance and actions we can and accept support where and when it is offered. ‪#‎betterisbetter‬. We're all a work in progress. The more supportive we can be to each other, the better we'll go and the more quickly we'll become those best versions of ourselves. Basically, keep your eyes on your own damn mat. 


#‎practicecompassion‬ ‪#‎zerocomparrison‬ ‪#isapracticenotaperfect

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